How does a guy avoid stepping in "It"

[FunFantaSeekers]

This is directed at the fellas. Tell me, does this sound familiar. "Babe, I fantasize about doing that. And that. Ya know? I like men like that. She's pretty. When we do, I want to do that.."
Us Fellas- "You bet babe!"
Her- "But....... I don't want it to be planned."



Us Fellas- "Ok, let me make sure we are clear. You want that. With him, or her, maybe both of them, or all of us. You'd like him to have, well, that. And have them be into that and into you or us? Organically? Just bump into that at the sexy pool?"
Her- "Exactly!"

Us fellas-"FML!"

 

[Deleted member 9609]

I, of course, am a woman, but with extensive experience can answer your question. Not as an iron clad rule, but as a common practice, the men do all the planning, hashing out of rules, and scenario negotiations with the other guy. This is so the women can take that "extra time" we require to get "in the mood" and ramped up to our highest levels of excitement.

So.... when she tells you "she wants this or that", she absolutely doesn't mean get on Craigslist and find someone willing. She means when and if a connection happens organically, remember what she has previously mentioned and work out the details with the opposing guy or couple. Keep her out of the "back and forth" so she doesn't get turned off by the complications. Just remember that she wants this but wants it to be as casual and natural for her as possible. Keep her focused on what is turning her on but be her protection/safety net so she can fully "let go", when the time arises.

 

[Wild1s]

So, as a woman who has gone through this, (years ago) I think I can explain it. It’s very simple. She would like to do all the things that a slut does, but she doesn't want to be a "slut!"

It's just semantics. Just go with it, plan things for her (that always have an escape route) and let her be her inner wild self.

After some time, I have changed my view on labels. Yes, I'm a slut and damed proud of it! I wouldn't have said that 10 years go, but once I did, it became a natural. Sluts know what we want and will high five you when we get it.

 

[FunFantaSeekers]

Thank you ladies. I just find it ironic and a catch 22. But y'all are spot on. I knew I could count on good sage advice and thats what I got. Nice work sexies!!!!!

 

[Wild1s]

So, almost a year later...is there now more to the story? Please update! ;-)