Just my 2 cents, but in no way meant to judge others. The lifestyle is a broad spectrum of people with, not only different preferences, but varying levels of participation and motivations. In the case of me and my wife, once we decided to open our bedroom and pursue a “unicorn”, the path of least resistance was the paid option. We are very outgoing and, in my humble opinion, the most attractive couple in most bar/restaurants (the wife is like fitness model hot). That said, our inexperience and vanilla history prevented us from broaching the conversation with single women. We feared the word would get out in our local community and females that met our (her) standards were hardly ever alone. It seemed that, although very inorganic and transactional, an escort could help us figure out if this is something we wanted in our marriage. As expected, these “dates” did lack fulfillment but we learned more about what we would look for in a true lifestyle experience. We have struggled to find that experience as of yet based on how much time spent and how much toe we want to put in the water. I know that’s our problem, not others, but before we disparage anyone for going that route, put into context that it may be the “ice breaker” couples need to decide if this is for them. If It’s not, there’s no awkwardness on anyone’s part about who did what with that girl at the bar.
For the record this was before we ever new about
TTR and before we really considered adult dating sites (including their endless possibilities). Also, depending on the market, there are some incredible options without dealing with endless messaging, dinner and drinks with disappointing results and that weirdness if we’re not all on the same page. Although still lacking experience, we’ve learned so much about the LS since then. We’ve been to
TTR once, met a lot of people, and, yes, could have hooked up at least a couple of times. The irony is that our first choice was always taken by a more aggressive couple, and again, that’s our problem.
Bottom line is, the combination of 2 parties meeting, finding the other attractive, and looking for the same experience is relatively easier at Temptation, is still difficult for us otherwise. If I recall from research a few years ago, there were a couple of brothels in Cancun that advertised world class hotness. In retrospect, glad we didn’t partake but if someone is looking for that element, I can’t blame them.
